💍 10 Non-Negotiables Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Marriage
“Marriage isn’t just a celebration—it’s building a life after the cake is gone.”
Before saying “I do,” say “Let’s talk.” Couples who discuss these 10 things to discuss before marriage reduce divorce risk by 31% (University of Denver). Start strong:
📍 1. Where Will We Live?
Key questions to ask:
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City vs. suburbs? Rent or buy?
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Close to family or prioritize careers?
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*”What’s your 5-year location dream vs. reality?”*
💰 2. Money Management Style
Top things to discuss before marriage:
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Joint or separate accounts?
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Debt repayment plans (student loans, credit cards)
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Splitting bills: 50/50 or income-based?
Pro Tip: Use apps like Splitwise for trial runs.
👶 3. Children: Timeline & Expectations
Crucial questions:
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Kids: Yes/no? How many?
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Ideal timeline: 2 years vs. 10 years?
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Views on adoption/fostering?
Dealbreaker Alert: Never assume—verify alignment.
🛡️ 4. Conflict Resolution Style
Discuss:
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“Do you need space or immediate resolution?”
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Off-limits phrases (e.g., “You always…”)
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Safe words to pause heated arguments
🌿 5. Core Values & Beliefs
Align on:
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Religious practices: Joint services?
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Political boundaries: “Can we disagree respectfully?”
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Gender roles: Career vs. home duties?
📱 6. Digital & Social Boundaries
Must-ask questions:
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“Is flirty texting cheating?”
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Social media: Post couple photos?
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Ex-contact rules: Block or stay friends?
❤️ 7. Defining Loyalty & Infidelity
Get specific:
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Emotional cheating: Is deep friendship okay?
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Physical boundaries: Work trips?
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Privacy vs. secrecy: Password sharing?
⏳ 8. Personal Space Needs
Talk about:
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“How much alone time do you need weekly?”
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Hobbies: Shared vs. separate?
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Nights out with friends: Frequency?
🚀 9. Supporting Individual Dreams
Ask:
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“Would you relocate for my job?”
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Career sacrifices: Whose takes priority?
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Funding further education?
🎯 10. Your “Successful Marriage” Vision
Final thing to discuss before marriage:
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“Is ‘success’ kids, wealth, or adventure?”
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Retirement dreams: Travel or settle?
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Dealbreakers: Addiction, abuse, apathy?
💬 The Ultimate Marriage Foundation
“Marry someone you can talk to about anything—especially* the hard stuff.”*
Strong couples aren’t perfect—they’re intentionally honest.
📣 Engage With Us:
Which of these things to discuss before marriage surprised you?
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With honesty & hope,
Abhishek & Anuradha
